A romantic orchard Engagement

April 30th, 2012

Katie and Andy are easy to be around. Fun. Vibrant. Hilarious. They are the kind of people you can’t help becoming instant friends with. I feel like I’ve known Katie for years, though we only just met a few short weeks ago, and I cannot wait for their romantic, mustache-filled October wedding. Last Thursday, we went to Aamodt’s Apple Orchard for their engagement session. Complete with their favorite dessert and a bottle of red, the evening was relaxed and fun. Full of light and laughter. Just like the two of them.


Holden. Month Six.

April 25th, 2012

My best friend had a baby last October (You may remember the birth story). I happen to love him like a nephew (probably because I love her like a sister.) On Monday we took some portraits; to preserve the memory of his arm fat. His two teeth. His big eyes and drooling mouth. To capture this moment in time. Because babies — they grow up.

But Holden…before you get too big to sit in my lap. Too big to let momma give you a kiss in front of school. Too big to think your father is a superhero, I give you this:

You’re six months old now. You’ve got two teeth, you love Sophie the Giraffe, you are desperate for pizza, and you’re loved beyond measure. As you grow up, I wish for you many things. Friends. A carefree childhood. Enough tantrums to teach your parents patience, but enough discipline to keep you from being spoiled. I wish you scraped knees and training wheels. Pet frogs and best-friend dogs. But most of all,  I wish for you your momma’s immense heart, and her unending kindness. Your daddy’s dry humor and his sense of style. May he also teach-by watching the simple  way he absolutely, wholly, and without question loves your momma-what it means to truly love a woman without losing yourself. But may you get lost in love at least once.

My dear, sweet boy. May you not grow up too fast.
But when you do,
may you stay
forever young.


On Becoming Myself : A Post About Failure

April 23rd, 2012

I’ve struggled with the idea of publishing this personal of a post. This exact post, in particular. It’s scary, showing yourself to the world. But it is part of an ever growing process for me. Of getting out of my comfort zone. Of doing things that scare the bejeebus out of me. Of pushing and perservering and trying. And of failing.

When I was first starting out in this business, I mean really seriously omigod-what-on-earth-am-I-getting-myself-into starting out, I was scared. Terrified, if I’m being honest. Knees shaking, fingers trembling, heart racing scared. Of success. Of failure. Of not actually being a good photographer. Of letting people (my friends, my clients, myself) down. I was so scared that I was going to misstep, that I would falter. I was conviced of it, actually. It was inevitable: Failure. At least that’s what I had told myself.

If I prepared myself to fail, to have to give up this dream someday, then it wouldn’t hurt as much when it happened. “Expect the worst, hope for the best” became my mantra.

I spent the first year in this business sad. Glum. Depressed. Convinced that no matter how hard I worked I was never going to book another wedding, or a portrait session, that I’d never have a professional website, the equipment that I needed, a faster computer. I was certain my work would never be great. I’d be stuck somwhere between okay and mediocre forever.

And it broke my heart into a million tiny pieces. Every. Single. Day.

I can’t tell you when or where it happened exactly, only that it was some time last summer. The Austin heat was sweltering, no rain in sight, and the days were only getting hotter. Drier. Even though the sky couldn’t shake free a storm, one was brewing in my soul. My heart was ready to let go. I was sick of being the only person at my pity parties. Moreso, I was sick of even throwing them (they’re historically un-fun, poorly attended, and the food is horrendous).  I was sick of feeling that empty pit in the bottom of my stomach – an ache in the space reserved for despair and hopelessness  that you can only feel when it’s full. Filling up the whole of you with woe. Doubt. Sorrow. That wasn’t me. Not even a little bit. So I decided I wasn’t going to be that girl who wasn’t me any longer.

Fast forward to this past November: Cool and crisp, a perfect Minnesota fall filled with the smell of wood-smoke, damp leaves, and cool sunshine. Fall is my favorite season, and for whatever reason this past one left me feeling reborn. As if I’d somehow come into my own skin finally. I felt alive. Rejuvinated. Ready. I was reading Jasmine Star’s bookzine “Exposed” and came to the page on redifining failure in an effort to truly pave the way to success. It struck a chord with me. Hit home. Made perfect sense. So I grabbed my moleskine and I wrote. Page after page after page. Day after day. I detailed what failure looked like. I counted my blessings – the things in my life that I’m thankful for Right.This.Moment-and I let go.

And in that moment: Transcendence. Lightness. Freedom.

It sounds cheesy, trite, falsely prolific, I know. I can’t even believe I just wrote the word “transcendence.” But it’s true. Once I defined what failure looked like, once I made it an actual option instead of something that was either an inevitable destination or a demon to be avoided at all costs, it stopped looking like an absolute, and it stopped being scary. Instead of sobbing on my kitchen floor, words thick, struggling to come out, ranting about how I’m never going to amount to anything, how no matter how hard I try I never get anywhere, I’m here. Farther than I ever dreamed I’d be at this point in my career, yet still so excited by how far I still have to go. It’s not about the destination anymore: The lenses, the website, the fully-booked wedding seasons, the workshops, the networking, the status-quo. It’s about doing it. Every day. No matter what. Shooting. Dreaming. Living.

Most of all, living.

I don’t have all the answers, I don’t even pretend to have some of them, but this much I know is true: failure will only hold you back if you let it, and dreams will only take you so far. The rest is work. Difficult, exhausting, thrilling, heartbreaking, wonderful work. And you have to do it to become who it is that you truly are. 

The process to shed myself of that negative skin has taken a long time. Hours. Days. Weeks. Months. The winds of change began blowing that hot Texas July, and still blows warm upon my face, and stirs my soul.  It’s the kind of breeze I’m crazy thankful for. Every second, of every day.